Friends was one of the greatest television sitcoms of all freaking time. Don't @ me, don't fight me, just embrace it because you know it's true.
I recently got lost in New York City (are you event surprised?) and I started staring up at this building feeling a sense of déjà vu (the sense of familiarity, recollection, feeling of having already lived through an experience) Then I noticed people taking pictures of that same building! I decided to look a my google maps to see if the building had any significance and what do you know?! It was the Friends apartment building! It looked pretty cool but I would have never known that it was THE apartment unless I looked it up.
Of course I started getting all nostalgic thinking back to when I would watch the show as a kid. Did you know that the cast of Friends all started filming when they were in their early-ish 20's?
Jennifer Aniston: 25 - 26
Courteney Cox: 30
Lisa Kudrow: 31
Matt LeBlanc: 26
Matthew Perry: 25
David Schwimmer: 27
Then I started to think about how I'm currently in my twenties and the theme song for Friends was sooooo relatable! Like seriously, look at it!
So no one told you life was gonna be this way Your job's a joke, you're broke Your love life's D.O.A It's like you're always stuck in second gear When it hasn't been your day, your week, your month Or even your year, but
I know everyone had their own struggles going on in their life at all ages but is it just me that feels like you are more awkward and stressed out about the rest of your life in your twenties? I know it's supposed to be the time of your freaking life right here and right now. Don't get me wrong, there are definitely pieces of my life that freaking rock, there are also lots of moments of feeling lonely and unaccomplished. Do you ever feel like that or is it just me? I'm almost 28 year old. I'm not married or even in a relationship, I don't own a home or even a car anymore. I don't have stocks and just barely contributing to my Roth IRA and 401K. I haven't gone to the dentist or doctor in a hot minute. I haven't figured out a nighttime face routine to get rid of this adult acne. I forget to go the gym and would rather order a pizza and drink a bottle of wine to the face on a Wednesday night alone. I feel like my career isn't stable enough yet and I'm a complete workaholic. IS IT JUST ME?! It can't just be me feeling like this.
It may sound really silly but I don't feel like I'm where I want to be in my life right now. We have always lived on a timeline in life. Go to school, study hard, go to college, pick a good major, get an internship, land a great job, meet someone you get along with, get engaged in your twenties, get a dog, get married, buy a home, have a baby, go on vacation, have another baby. Once you start to realize life doesn't work like that, you begin to accept loving the life that you have right now, in this very moment. It's something I'm working on myself.
Think about it, the cast of Friends were all in their twenties and didn't have it all figured out then and you don't have to figure it all out now. That's life! We are all just going through the motions of life and trying to really like ourselves before you bring someone else into your life. If you are one of the few that are in a stable loving relationship or already married, with kids, a home, a dog and a stable career then YESSSSSS you are an incredible human being! I'm not bashing those who have their shit together, but I'm telling you it's okay if you don't have it all right now. Life goes on so just be happy in the moment or change your life to make yourself happy!
I was really unhappy in San Francisco and it's something I still can't find the right way to describe yet. I just felt like I was living my life for a lot of other people instead of being selfish and making myself happy first before bringing happiness to others. It's like when you're on an airplane, they tell you to put your oxygen mask first AND then help others. It's a dumb analogy but that kept running through my head when I was deciding to make my move across the country. I need to find my happiness now in order for the rest of my life to be happy or even find that happiness with another person who I want to spend the rest of my life with.
So in conclusion, if you're a millennial or maybe you were once in your twenties, just remember that it's okay to not have your shit all figured out right now. Take the pressure off yourself and just live your life to the fullest. Do what makes YOU happy and as they say, the rest should fall into place. Trust me when I tell you, I'm writing this blog post right now as a reminder to myself to take a chill pill and go off-roading from my initial 'life plan' that I had at 19 years old. It'll all be okay as long as YOU are happy with yourself!